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Depression: Understanding Thoughts of Suicide
by Stephen L. Bernhardt

For many years I had suffered from depression and suicidal urges. I tried to determine why it was happening to me and what I could do to end my pain. The books I found were mostly statistical listings of who took their own life, their income brackets, and vocations. Personal accounts were specific to their situation and recounted little insight into why this was happening to me, or what I could do to end the intense pain.

I am, what some would say, mildly manic depressive and have a family history that would support such a conclusion. But, this is not my story. This is an attempt to help those who are depressed with suicidal thoughts, better understand what they are going through and help them find possible solutions.

Most people who are suicidal are also depressed. The two prime reasons that a person becomes depressed, are a loss of control, over their life situation and of their emotions, and secondly a loss of a positive sense of their future (loss of hope). Any therapy which is to be effective in reversing our depressed state, and the resultant suicidal urges, will have to help us regain control, and help us regain hope.

Being depressed causes us to narrow our view of the world around us to such an extent that reality becomes distorted. The negative in our lives is constantly reinforced and the positive around us is discounted as being irrelevant, or even non existent. Options to help solve our problems are rejected as having no merit, until it seems as if there is no possible solution.

An unrelenting and oppressive sadness comes over us which causes a very real pain, as if the pain of the sudden loss of a parent stays with us for weeks, months, and even years. It is as if we are trapped in a dark cave or possibly a tunnel that runs only from our constant pain to somewhere near hell, with no exit to heaven and no exit to joy. We begin to think that there is no relief and that this pain will never end. Tomorrow will be the same, or worse. Death may be the only solution!

Suicide is not a solution, it is an end before a solution can be found. It cannot be considered an option, for an option denotes we have a choice and death robs us of both, option and choice. Death is an irreversible act that does not end the pain, for it remains in those who are left behind. Even people who are totally alone, and take their own lives, transfer their pain to those of us in society who do care, and we do - care!

Many people have suicidal thoughts at some time during their lives. For most the thought is fleeting, happening after a major life loss, or at some point in life where they perceive the future as becoming hopeless. For others, life is not quite so kind, they may have a strong genetic propensity to become depressed, a chemical imbalance, or a series of unfortunate life experiences may eventually end in depression. Still others have much to do with causing their own pain by using an unrealistic cognitive thought process and having expectations in life that are not possible to achieve. Whatever the cause, we are all at risk of having strong suicidal urges when it seems as though the future has become hopeless.

There is no class or type of person that is exempt from having suicidal thoughts. Doctors, therapists, and teenagers from all walks of life, are all high on the percentage lists of completed suicide, although it seems that those people with strong religious convictions are least likely to attempt.

Suicidal "Triggers"
Given a person is depressed and having suicidal thoughts, there are certain releasers or triggers which intensify the suicidal urge. Recognizing those triggers of renewed suicidal urges which are present in your life will help you to understand what is happening to you and begin to allow you more control of your emotions.

1. Beginning Therapy and After Therapy.
Suicidal urges are particularly high just after a depressed patient first enters therapy. When beginning therapy the very symptoms give rise to thoughts such as "this will never work", or "why should I put myself through this, when there is no possible hope of success". Combined with these thoughts may be the possibility that the patient and therapist do not connect or bond (as may happen between any two strangers when they first meet). The expectation that therapy will fail, especially if this not the first attempt, is devastating. We begin to believe that if therapy fails, then we will never be rid of this pain, and what is the use of going on.

THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT! It is particularly tragic, when a patient has gone through therapy and the depression has substantially lifted, that they then kill themselves. It happens! Depression is episodic, in that it can come and go, sometimes in an instant. If a person is feeling euphoric and at long last can envision themselves as depression free in the future, any setback will cause a flight back to the conditioned response of suicidal ideation.

The thought of the pain returning is unbearable and the urge to die may become intense. The triggers which cause this renewed depressive and suicidal episode are usually the same things which contributed to the depression in the first place. After therapy a continued exposure to an abusive partner, an oppressive boss, the inability to overcome substance abuse, inadequate concept of self, financial problems, etc. can trigger renewed suicidal urges.

There is good news! These suicidal urges do not have to plunge you back into the depths of your depressive hell! This does not signify your therapy has failed or that you must then start again from square one. Recognizing those triggers or releasers of renewed suicidal urges that are present in your life will help you to understand when it happens and, that it can be reversed. The panic which follows renewed suicidal thoughts will be short lived if you do not allow this panic to take control of your mind. See your therapist, a friend, or the local crisis center. Let them help you talk it out, what you need now is - time. The feeling will pass, usually in 2 days or less!

Off in an isolated room playing a game with a young child, or alone in the back yard inspecting whatever, we hide trying to avoid any conversation which might remind us of the pain. Aunt Annabell, or even a stranger might ask us if we have a job yet, or if the divorce is final, and we are slammed back into depression and suicidal thoughts. A loving relative might ask us "what's wrong" and try to bring us out of our shell. An inappropriate angry outburst might follow, giving credence to the saying that "you always hurt the ones you love". We are sorry, we depress.

3. The Antagonists.
The antagonists in our lives (the oppressive boss, the abusive spouse or partner, or that jerk who never quits) can easily trigger renewed suicidal urges. Strangers, at first meeting, soon recognize or sense that we are depressed. This may be an unconscious recognition on their part where our general demeanor, body posture, facial expressions, and attitude send signals that may cause them to react with outbursts of anger, which are not warranted, given the circumstances.

This unfair treatment of a depressed person is perplexing and gives rise to thoughts such as "life is so unfair", or "life sucks!". Some others may feel a compassion for the depressed person which they are seldom able to adequately express, and they may embarrass or act inappropriately. Still others seek out depressed individuals and take advantage of the situation, all in order to boost an ego that is badly in need of repair. Take heart, as our depression lifts, and we begin to regain control of our life and of our emotions, this treatment will pass - and it does!

4. Natural Events and Suicidal Thoughts
The effect that natural events have on depression is extremely important, especially when one is beginning to overcome the depressive response. Fast moving weather front lows, the full and new moons, changes of the seasons, and decreased sunlight in winter, will cause an increased state of anxiety when a person is depressed. One is especially at risk when there is a fast moving weather front approaching the two days before the full moon. This must not be discounted as hearsay or superstition! Hollywood has made a mockery of the effect that the full moon may have on people.

When I mention the effect to people who have not experienced it, the same facial sneer always appears and anything I say after that is discounted as the babblings of an idiot. The fact is, that when depressed we are in a more primal state. Our emotions are raw and we are subject to natural changes in our environment and in our bodies. Increased risk can be anticipated during lows in the cycle of our biological state (such as during a woman's menstrual cycle - men have high and low monthly emotional and physical cycles also).

A statistical correlation has not been identified concerning suicidal attempts and the full moon because the full moon does not cause one to commit the act. The full moon and the other listed natural events cause an increased state of anxiety which exacerbates depression and increases the risk of the suicidal urge becoming strong. Actually the risk of attempts of suicide is greatest during the week after the full moon, as increased depression and the resultant suicidal urges begin to take their toll.

Strong suicidal urges, mania that approaches panic (and a resultant plunge back to depression), or deepening depression that cannot be explained by renewed life crisis, can many times be explained by looking at a calender which has the cycle of the moon marked on it! Although knowledge of what is causing this reversal does not keep it from happening, there is comfort in that one now understands what is happening and comfort that it will end in two days or less, and it does!

5. Substance Abuse
Nicotine, caffeine, alcohol, illegal drugs, obsessive overeating, and some prescription drugs, all have a detrimental effect on depressed persons. Many times the thought is that if the abuse can be overcome then the pain will end. In some cases this may be true, but what if attempts to overcome substance abuse fail? The failure may cause further depression making it difficult to even attempt subsequent withdrawal, let alone be successful. The truth is that it is possible to separate the depression from the substance abuse. Once the depression is overcome the substance abuse can be worked on from a position of strength rather than from a depressed state.
6. The Death Fantasy

During times of increased stress and trauma some may try to escape the pain of life by fantasizing that they are dead. The fantasy may begin with the thought that one has died, and the family and friends are standing at the grave side, they grieve and are very sorry we are dead. The vast number of people at the funeral attests to how much we were loved and admired. It had taken our death but we were finally able to communicate to them how unfair life had been for us and now they could take us seriously and realize that our pain was real. The "mock" attempts of suicide may be a similar form of fantasy, where the loved ones are visioned as standing around the hospital bed and they are finally able to realize how unbearable the pain of life was for us.

If one becomes preoccupied with the death fantasy or uses it to excess in escaping from the pain of life, the fantasy will become a conditioned response in reaction to added stress or crises. Death can become a friendly thought and one may begin to fear the pain of life more than they fear death.

7. Bipolar Disorder: A Manic Crash and Burn.
The bi-polar, manic depressive person (one who alternates between periods of manic euphoria and a depressed state) should be extra careful to identify those triggers which may cause a reversal of mood. Some people seem to be able to control their manic periods, others cannot. Even those who outwardly seem to be in control are at risk if they have a reversal of fortune, and their sometimes unrealistic endeavors turn sour. The mood swing can be swift, unexpected, and dangerous. In an instant we can be slammed back into a depressed state with strong suicidal urges.

Our view of the future
The human conscious mind is the only entity on the face of this planet which is able to conceptualize and abstract the future. The need for a positive sense of the future is one of the prime motivators of human life. This need transcends even the event of our ultimate demise and is the motivation to envision a continuation of life after death. We do not want to think that death is the end. Heaven, and life after death with God fulfills this need for the religious person, others have envisioned reincarnation, or that we enter (body whole) into another dimension without the need to believe in God. For others the legacy of their works or the continuation of their genes through their offspring is enough to give them a positive sense that death is not a complete end.

In the short term and for those who do not concern themselves with what happens after we die, there is still the need for a positive sense of our future. It is what makes us get up in the morning and face the coming day. Even in the face of adversity or drudgery we are motivated to endure, because we envision an end to these conditions and a better future at some later date. Anticipation of future events is what makes our body ready itself for the sex act, it is what motivates us to amass wealth and power, to buy a lotto ticket, to set goals and have aspirations.

Even the diehard sofa potato looks to the future as told to him by the upcoming programs in the television listings, and of course there is that next thirst quenching beer and resultant belch, to look forward to. We all have a need for something to look forward to, if we lose all hope that the future holds anything positive or that our present pain will ever end, most of us will depress.

CONCLUSION
Knowing what is happening to us goes a long way in being able to regain control over our life and our emotions. But real healing will not be possible until the depression is lifted. I recommend that anyone who is depressed and having suicidal thoughts, seek help. There are drugs which may help to maintain a depression free life, and therapy is needed to help us better understand why we became depressed and what we need to do in order to live our life in control of our emotions.

This manuscript was conceived while I sat on a ledge overlooking the abyss of hell. I would contemplate if I should follow the intense urge to jump and end it all, or if I could muster the strength to take control of my emotions and of my life. I tried so very hard to picture the future - with me in it. I hope that relating the knowledge I have gained from my experience and my pain, might somehow help ease your pain. Knowing what is happening to you and some of the reasons why it is happening, might help you regain a positive view of your future, a view that includes both, you and me.
by
© Stephen L. Bernhardt - 1996-2002

shit!! shit! shit! i havent blogged in months, shit is crazy right now! all i can say is SHIT! lol. I moved to new jersey, and im working as a personal secretary for this freakin multi millionare closet case. I met maria! finally after almost 4 years of talking online and on the phone! I love her more than ever. huh! I went to a strip bar! felt up some weird looking girls ass for some $1's lol. i'll write about that experience later. So much to write about and so lil time, shit again. Right now im at the office not doing anything cause jeff my assholeboss hasnt come in yet.

I post once every month and i get online everyday...stupid me. Well life is the same. My uncle from my mothers side [which i consider my only family] came from the states, i havent seen him in 15 years...hes so like my grandfather, the comedian, jokester...he makes me laugh...i could have chosen a father i would have made him just like my uncle. Today he told me that if ever needed anything, he would be there for me...i got Drama with my not so sometimes so gf. I dont want to get into detail about that mess, she might find this blog and then im fucked. Yesterday i found out her sister has a page on myspace.com lol she told me her sis caught her bf talking to some bitch and they broke up. dang.

I cant believe im talking to Angel again.Pito(nic) was my bestfriend since middle school. Its crazy, how you lose touch with a person and then suddenly you find eachother, and everything just comes back; The memories, good times, and all the bad moments somehow doesnt matter anymore. I cant believe how much i missed him, the last time i saw him was before he moved to PA 4years ago, our friendship had fallen into this black hole. He got married and just drifted, but that wasnt the main reason he drifted, it kinda went to pieces when we dated, i broke his heart...yea me...again...i dated him to kill the what if's between us, and it didnt work out. The kissing alone was like kissing my brother...if i had one. Thank god it didnt go further...i do regret hurting him, cause he was in love with me...of course this was during denial im not a lesbian this cant be...self. So, he calls me a week ago, after 4 years, so many emotions of....i dont know...i guess...comfort? Feeling good knowing he's alright and happy. I told him i was a lesbian and he stood quiet, and i asked him are you surprised?, and he said " i always knew". Damn....2 people already have said that shit to me. Do i look lesbionic? i dont know. Anyhoo...now were emailing and shit, its cool...

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wow its been a month, since my last blog. Why haven’t i bloged?...lets see, there has been "love" drama, slight depression, some kind of neurotic behavior and oh yea layoffs. I've been lost in space for the last month. I dont know... i've just been staring at things ..no, seriously...staring at shit and asking myself stupid questions. I feel so empty, i don’t know how to express myself... i never do...i dont like too...i dont think i know how to...is this it? I feel like im missing something in me...i know this sounds stupid but i feel so soulless...like a nomad...i dont want to write anymore.

i read this on yahoo news and im kinda freaked out...i live in the south-east of Puerto Rico, next to the freaking ocean! literally. Damn... I dont want to die...i dont want anyone to die...i love my country, my island...

Caribbean Vulnerable to Tsunami, Study Finds
By Maggie Fox, Health and Science Correspondent



WASHINGTON (Reuters) - Large cracks off the coast of Puerto Rico show there is a strong chance of quakes, landslides and tsunamis in the Caribbean region, geologists said on Wednesday.

Sonar readings of the Puerto Rican trench, where the North American and Caribbean plates meet, show long, deep cracks, said Nancy Grindlay and Meghan Hearne of the University of North Carolina Wilmington and Paul Mann of the University of Texas at Austin.

That fits in with historical reports of tsunamis in the area, some of which have the potential to be very large, the three scientists reported in the journal Eos.

"I marked out faults and what appear to be landslide deposits," Grindlay said in a telephone interview.

"We also identified these large cracks on the sea floor that appear to have potential for future landslides. They are about 35 to 40 kilometers (20 to 25 miles) long and they are right off the north coast of Puerto Rico."

They range in depth from 1,000 meters (3,200 feet) to 3,000 meters (10,000 feet), she said, and some are similar to the fault that caused the Dec. 26 quake off the coast of Indonesia that generated the tsunami that left 300,000 people dead or missing in the Indian Ocean area.

As with all quakes, it was impossible to predict when one would occur and what sort of tsunami it might generate, if it caused one at all, Grindlay said.

Movement of the sea floor or a landslide could cause such a wave. It could affect Haiti, the Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Jamaica, the Bahamas and the Virgin Islands, she said.

"There is the potential for the tsunami to travel across the ocean but by the time it reaches the (U.S.) Atlantic coast it will probably be a small wave," she said.

At least 10 significant tsunamis have been documented in the northern Caribbean since 1492.

All 10 were triggered by movement along this plate boundary, which runs 2,000 miles from the north coast of the island of Hispaniola, home to Haiti and the Dominican Republic, to the Lesser Antilles, the researchers said.

One destroyed Port Royal, Jamaica in 1692, and another killed at least 10 Jamaicans in 1780.

In 1946, a magnitude 8.1 earthquake in the Dominican Republic caused a wave that killed 1,800 people.

More could die if another tsunami hits because 35.5 million people now live along vulnerable coasts, the three geologists said.

Other experts have noted there are several active Caribbean volcanoes that could set off an inundating wave.

In January, U.S. officials said they would spend $37.5 million over two years for new deep-sea warning systems aimed at giving near-total coverage for the U.S. coastline.

There is no such system in the Caribbean.

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......its like the scene where they lock the girl in that white sterile room with mirrors all around, and she wakes up to find herself plugged to some weird head devices and an i.v, ...strangers...examining her every move, reaction?...drawing and making their own conclusions on what they see. hmm... or was that just a scene from resident evil? ha. Point is, i dont wanna be that girl...i guess its to late for that, thank you BLOGDRIVE :\
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